Temper Tantrums at 6, I Thought We Were Done
It is safe to say that most parents would agree that by the time their child is 6, temper tantrums should be a thing of the past.
6 Year Old Tantrums – I Thought We Were Done – The reason for this new attitude and the tantrums at this age is the fact that your 6 year old is at a new stage of emotional and social development.
Something almost magical seems to happen to children when they turn six, some people have referred to it as the “terrible 6s,” which is not talked about often, but real none the less.
This can include a smart alec attitude, back talk, a belief that they can do anything and very high self esteem. The good news is that this is a normal stage for your child to go through… and it will go away.
Part of the reason for this new attitude and the tantrums at this age is the fact that your 6 year old is at a new stage of emotional and social development. Just as there was tremendous growth mentally for them from birth to 5 years old, now they are growing by leaps and bounds emotionally. By this age children are in school. They are reading, spelling and learning a lot about the world around them.
How should Parents handle 6 Year Old Tantrums
There are few things that you can do with a child at this age, that would not have worked for younger children. One technique is to let them know that there will not be an audience for their temper tantrum. By the time they are 6, it is okay for you to look at them and say, “I am going to leave the room, you come get me when you’re done.” Then you have to turn and walk out of the room. Often times you may find that you leaving the room is all that was needed to stop the tantrum.
Distraction also works at this age. If your 6 year old is having problems calming him or herself down try hugging them and saying soothing words to them. As they start to calm down distract them by washing their face or getting them a drink. Whatever you do, do NOT give into your child’s demands. You need to stay calm and teach your child what to do when he or she gets angry.
Six year olds also have an independent streak, which is a good thing, but it can lead to tantrums. To help foster their independence give them options that they can pick from when you want them to do something. Instead of telling them to go to bed now, say “What would you like to do first, get your jammies on or brush your teeth?” You should also pay attention to the signs your child, even at 6, will give when he or she is getting overtired, over-stimulated or over hungry.
If you start to notice that your child is throwing more and more temper tantrums it might be a good idea to talk to your pediatrician. You doctor may be able to offer guidance on what is going on with your child and the best way to handle it.
Whatever you do, it is important that you remain calm. Understand that this is a normal stage of development, and this too shall pass.